Mind plays dress-up

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Just got back from a mini-trip to Milwaukee; stayed at Marquette John’s place and got to see Rudy, Louise (my old roommate), and old friend Arielle as well as met all of John’s new international friends. John and I caught up and exchanged weird gifts that we get each other every time we see one another. He got me some fabulous tea and coffee and he is now the proud owner of the funniest Helen Keller joke ever, written in a Helen Keller card. As well as more tea and Jarritos caps. :)

Got up early today with him and saw his Aunt Barb again, which was nice. Teddy picked me up and we went for lunch then coffee downtown and got to catch up. As he walked me to the bus depot, he gave me $50 and three girls looked at me like I was sketchy. No, that is what we call friendship. I have myself some unbelievable friends. : )

I fucking love them!

jessicagoldharalson:

jessicalouise:

Anyway. If a girl is going to get her tits out why doesnt she just be honest about liking the attention?

Also? Why is everyone re-blogging this and taking issue with it? Nowhere in my post did i mention girls with big breasts whose breasts are just so big they can’t help but accidentally showing a bit cleavage. Cause obviously there’s a difference between that and getting them out on purpose.

Because it’s PRETTY FUCKING PRESUMPTUOUS, not to mention sexist, to just straight up assume that someone is showing cleavage because they “want attention” and “like the attention”?

That’s seriously one step away from the “She deserved it, look what she was wearing!” argument. Seriously. “She wanted it, or else she wouldn’t have dressed that way!” Are you listening to yourself? This feeds into an idea that women’s bodies are public property and not our own to control — or that we must hyper-control ourselves because the boys “just can’t help themselves.”

I’m not saying that women never, ever dress because they want male attention. But let’s be real here, women are, um, complex human beings with different motivations and reasons for doing things. Acting as though women are some sort of hive mind is demeaning.

There’s also the statement you make that “if women don’t like the attention then they should cover up”. Why should I change my behavior because someone else is being an asshole? I realize “that’s the way it is”, but I sure as hell am going to fight for it not to be. We women might as well just say “Fuck with it” and wear burqas if some men are going to use the tired old “biological imperative” excuse to forgive themselves for acting like jerks.

Also, you say “Why not just wear a T-shirt?” I’ll tell you why: that might be fine on the weekend, but what about, um, during the workday? It’s hard to find professional looking clothes for curvy girls.

This is so true. I am SUPER curvaceous, and there’s not too much I can do about it. No matter what I do to try to minimize the boobage it is always there. For internships and work I generally have to wear three layers on the top so that no one can harass me for showing cleavage (which is inevitable) but even then my boobs look ginormous because of the layering. How is this my fault? Excuse me for being a woman. 

yaaaaaay

Yay! I just finished my public policy class and found out I got an A on the final I took two Wednesdays ago after a night of terrible decisions. SWEET.

AND my team won the debate (we got extra credit). SWEET.

AND as I was walking out the door, she stopped me and said she enjoyed having me in class. SURPRISING. I just complained about how the book Smoking and Politics made it sound like the United States was a barren wasteland of a country in terms of its public health standards and that its economic freedom and individualism was something to be ashamed of and not lauded. I am not conservative by any stretch, but no public policy book should drip of upper-middle class yuppie-talk. SWEET.

Good day! :)